Adopted children have additional factors that affect their lives. They may have been in one or more foster placements before their adoption. They may have been in one or more foster placement in homes where other children already lived and who may have resented the intrusion of strangers into their own family and space. Each temporary placement brings a confusing array of conflicting values into the child’s life. Some of these values studies have linked adoption to an increased risk of depression in adopted child. While reports are can be conflicting and confusing for adoptive parents and health care providers, there are some theories, symptoms, facts and treatment options to keep in mind when caring for or treating adopted children who may suffer from depression. They always thing themselves are no values in the world and so on. Adopted children often have mixed feeling about their adoption. They may learn to love their adoptive parents, but struggle with the fact that their own birth mothers gave them up. They might ask the adoptive parent. Why do you want me? Why didn’t my birth mom want me? What is wrong with me? Worse, they might think these things, but not ask them. They sense that something is not right about their situation, and they don’t know what to think or how to feel about it. It will affect their childhood memory. An extensive literature examining behavioral, diagnostic, and demographic characteristics of adopted children has provided several plausible explanations for the high rate of behavior problems among adopted children. They feel “different” from the adoptive family and struggle with a sense of loss, rejection, and even shame and embarrassment over their adoption. Even with these questions, they do not act out or cause major difficulties within their adoptive family or at school.
I agree all the adopted children will face depression problem because they always look down themselves and embarrassment. They feel “different” from the adoptive family. Some adopted children are afraid to talk or ask questions about their birth family so they fantasize about the birth family instead. “My life would be great if only I could live with my parents. They would love me and take me places and give me money and I wouldn’t have to follow all these rules. I would be much happier back home.”
Many children fantasize about what their birth parents look like, what they do for a living, and how much they are missed. Life events frequently draw adopted children back to memories of the past. Birthdays, holidays, and important events are hard for these children. What is a time of celebration for others is often a sad reminder of loss or rejection for them. We celebrate the day of their birth; but they secretly mourn the loss of their parents. Children interpret life and experiences, whether or not we talk to them about it. Often we avoid discussing what we don’t want to deal with, thinking that children will not think about it. An emotionally challenged child who is adopted might go through depression and withdrawal. In some cases, it can get so severe that intervention and treatment is necessary. The adopted parent must be patient with the child and try to communicate with the child as much as the child allows. Problems with self-identity are usually the case with adoptive children.
This is especially true of children who have been adopted from other countries. They go through culture shock and wondering where they fit in. Some might become insecure because of a language barrier. At school, these children might find it difficult to make friends. Adoptive parents should make every effort to embrace the child’s culture as well as teach the child about the new culture and surroundings. Sometimes, if they want to buy some toys or whatever and their adopter parent are not but it let the adopted children felt not treat them like son. Adopted children may sad over the loss of a relationship with their birthparents and the loss of the cultural and family connections that would have existed with those parents. They always thing what reason their birthparents want to leave them.
There are very trouble and feeling abandoned, and not good enough, coupled with specific hurt feelings over the birthmother’s choice to reject the children. The feeling of not being wanted is another problem for them. I make the adopted children felt very disappointed and depression. If they have experienced abandonment, the adopted children will not trust their new parents until they get to know them. This might take a while for the adjustment to take place. By talking openly about the adoption, the adoptive parent will offer a reassurance of stability. Adopted children may also suffer from a loss of access to important medical or genetic birth family histories. So the adopted children will thing this problem until become depression.
Adopted children may feel as though they are betraying their adoptive family and that they will hurt their adoptive family by expressing their desire to learn about their birth family. In a best case scenario, adopted children do not have to wonder how their adoptive family members feel about their interest in their birthparents because adoptive parents will have addressed these concerns directly in previous conversation. Even in such a best-case scenario, the emotions may still be somewhat painful or difficult. It is not obvious that an adoption has occurred when adopted children physically resemble their adoptive parents since people are unlikely to spontaneously ask about adoption issues. This type of attention can quickly become annoying and even hurtful if adoptive parents do not take steps to shut it down.
Otherwise, it can cause many argument and tragedy. Sensitive adoptive children may also fall victim to teasing and bullying at school, where other children taunt them in an attempt to make them feel ashamed for being adopted. Not every adopted child will express an interest in his or her birth family history. Some children become aware that most adoptions occur when birthmothers judge themselves financially and emotionally unable to raise a given child, and come to feel that there isn’t anything to gain by wondering about or seeking out their birth family. Such children prefer to just leave the adoption as a “done deal” and move on with who they are now, letting the past stay in the past. There is nothing wrong with adopted children who fail to show concern about their birth parents, and likewise, nothing wrong with adopted children who do show such interest. Both reactions are normal, if sometimes painful.
In addition, the adoption issues of difference, impermanence, feelings of mutual obligation and fear of abandonment are generally poorly understood and form the basis for the development of unique interaction patterns of communication. I know many adoptive parents who are raising traumatized children. One thing that fascinates me is how infrequently I hear adoptive parents talking about dissociative disorders. I say this because, on message boards for adult survivors of childhood abuse, dissociative disorders are high on the list of areas in which adult survivors struggle. They developed their disorders as young children, and as adults, they struggle to find a way to heal from them. Almost all the adopted children are diagnosed depression, so I agree about that the children will face this problem.
Eventually, I felt very compassionately on the adopted children and find the way to solve the problem. Adopted children often have mixed feeling about their adoption. They may learn to love their adoptive parents, but struggle with the fact that their own birth mothers gave them up. We try to overcome this problem and give them a happy childhood memory. Emotional and psychological problems are usually part of the reason why the child is placed in the adopted home. The adopted parent must be sensitive to a child that has experienced emotional and physical abuse. Working with a counselor or psychiatrist will help the child to make an easier transition to a new home and life. They always thing themselves are no values in the world and so on. Adopted children often have mixed feeling about their adoption. So we give so confident them to overcome. In adolescence, the adopted child is likely to have an increased interest in his or her birth parents. This open curiosity is not unusual and does not mean that he or she is rejecting the adoptive parents. Some adolescents may wish to learn the identity of their birth parents. Adoptive parents can respond by letting the adolescent know it is okay to have such interest and questions, and when asked should give what information they have about the birth family with sensitivity and support. Children should learn of their adoption from the adoptive parents. This helps give the message that adoption is good and that the child can trust the parents. If the child first learns about the adoption intentionally or accidentally from someone other than parents, the child may feel anger and mistrust towards the parents, and may view the adoption as bad or shameful because it was kept a secret.
Nowadays, teenager like to abuse drug, glue addiction, and cigarettes. Beside that, a new addiction is emerging and known as “computer game addiction”. This phenomenon is a quite new one and because of that not much of a real research or studying has been done on this subject, so it hard to tell when your computer usage has gone too far. A heavy user of computer games should be aware on how much time he spends in front of the computer and think about the choices he have, one way is to just sit in front of the computer playing games and let time pass by. Computer game addiction can be on both good and bad sides. It’s a quite rare thought but game addiction got some advantages. And I can take this statement because I’ve seen what it has done to people, I have a friend who was taking drugs, he was never home and he didn’t care shit about the school. Teenagers only focus in computer and not mind on his studying. Either way, the teenager is living out a fantasy life. The internet and computer is often an escape from reality for teenagers who feel they do not fit in with the real world. Either in chat rooms or with games, the teenager can be whomever they choose to be. All it takes is a click of the mouse and they are in their fantasy world living out their dream life, either in the form of a hero in a game to being somebody they are not in a chat room. Otherwise, teenagers also explore the porn website to download some movie and pornography. It is unfortunate that for a minority of teenagers, role playing of this kind turns into a full-on addiction. Computer game addiction among teens is very often the cause of family arguments because the teen will forgo social and family events preferring to use their computer instead. Very often an internet addict will stay up all night playing games or using a chat room. In the worst cases, teens will quit school or college favoring their computer game addiction. Symptoms of computer game addiction can include mood changes, they can become withdrawn, bursts of anger and a huge impact on their social relationships.
Computer games are most popular among teenagers. Thus, too many teenagers are only playing computer game and abandon their academic. Computer games excel at getting people addicted. Although a young person can develop an addiction to almost any video game, the most problematic gaming genre is that of massively multiplayer online role playing games, the most famous of which is World of Warcraft. When a person falls prey to the temptation of letting this game turn from a hobby into an obsession, it is very easy for teenagers to develop a true psychological addiction to the game. World of Warcraft are virtual brain candy, designed to keep users addicted by adding endless amounts of content. A mundane task as grinding gold can be extremely addicting to the average user, simply because of the reward system that is in place. Otherwise, online gaming is seriously because many teenagers play online game everyday. Researchers have found that a survey of 1500 teenagers indicated 25% were compulsive video gamers. Fifty per cent of those surveyed used the word “addiction” to describe a friend’s gaming behaviors. Because excitement becomes the reward for playing and because the games are set up to reinforce behavior intermittently, they are extremely habit-forming, and even potentially addicting. Psychologists think that video games are addicting because they provide many basic psychological needs to the users. Online video games offer rewards, virtual freedom, and often a connection with people.
Addiction to computer games can be caused by psychological problems such as antisocial personality disorder, depression, and social phobia. Users want a way to escape from their reality, and video games provide the perfect escape. Because of their widespread use, many studies provide data on the short and long-term effects of regularly playing computer games. Some studies conclude there is a link between playing violent video games and tendencies towards violent behavior. Increasingly, the social element to playing computer games affects how teenagers interact with peers. Playing computer games has also been shown to improve problem-solving skills and increase adeptness at using technology overall. But an addictive aspect too many games suggest that playing in moderation is critical.
The short term effect of computer addiction are the most prominent being that violent games change the way gamers interpret and respond to aggressive acts. Even those who aren’t predisposed to aggression respond with increased hostility after playing a violent video game. The game becomes what’s called a “situational variable” which changes the perception of and reaction to aggressive behavior.
Long-term effects of violent video games are still uncertain and are fiercely debated. No long-term studies have been conducted to date, so there are only hypotheses. Anderson and Bushman theorized that excessive exposure to violent video games causes the formation of aggressive beliefs and attitudes, while also desensitizing gamers to violent behaviors. Though long-term effects haven’t been clinically documented, one need only look at the way video game violence has progressively increased over the past two decades to get a sense of potential long-term effects. Parents would be wise to monitor the amount of time their kids spend gaming and watch closely for any negative effects. Many teens can play video games a few hours a week, successfully balancing school activities, grades, friends, and family obligations. But for some, gaming has become an uncontrollable compulsion. Just like gambling and other compulsive behaviors, teens can become so enthralled in the fantasy world of gaming that they neglect their family, friends, work, and school. They were excitedly playing a computer game they had just downloaded. This father felt lucky to overhear his son, disturbing as it was. He was able to steer the boys to non-violent games, more appropriate for their age and more in alignment with the family’s values. Additionally, if a child or teenager sits in front of a game all day and night, there is no physical activity involved, which can lead to obesity and other health problems. Internet computer addiction among teens is very often the cause of family arguments because the teen will forgo social and family events preferring to use their computer instead. Very often an internet addict will stay up all night playing games. In many ways, teen computer game addictions have remarkably similar symptoms to any other form of compulsive or addictive behavior. Whether it is drinking, gambling, gaming or drug abuse, all activities that encourage compulsive behavior exploit the part of the brain that is responsible for delivering rewards for our actions. The internet and computer is often an escape from reality for teenagers who feel they do not fit in with the real world. Either in chat rooms or with games, the teenager can be whomever they choose to be. All it takes is a click of the mouse and they are in their fantasy world living out their dream life, either in the form of a hero in a game to being somebody they are not in a chat room.
At the end, I felt a parent of a teenager suffering from internet and computer addiction should act upon it as soon as they see the symptoms by trying to limit the amount of hours the teenager spends on the computer. To prevent internet computer addiction among teens is somewhat a challenge. Encouraging the child to take up other pastimes or hobbies can in most cases turn their attention away from the computer. An organization specifically set up to combat internet computer addiction among teens, and has helped many thousands of teens and indeed, people of all ages, with their computer and internet addiction. State governments have attempted to regulate access to age-inappropriate content. We must organize some specifically camp motivation to set up combat internet computer addiction among teens, and has helped many thousands of teens and indeed, people of all ages, with their computer and internet addiction. Identifying triggers involved in Internet addiction is another area where psychological counseling is important. Such triggers are the thoughts and feelings that precede the teen’s use of the Internet. Training in social skills development or communications is also recommended, as many teens that have become addicted to the Internet are socially withdrawn and lack the ability to communicate easily with others on a face-to-face basis. One point that is also common to other types of addictions holds true for Internet addiction as well. Left untreated, Internet addiction can consume more and more of your teen’s time and energy, physical and emotional consequences may ensue, and relationships, grades, job and career opportunities may suffer.